Grief is fearful & vain too, isn't it? You aren't just mourning an adored person, lost. You are also mourning the fact that they were witness to you and to your life. The fact that he was here proves I was here. Terry & Kate, Kate & Terry. That's the way it has been for so long. There's narcissism involved in grieving. I'm heartsick that none of my holiday photos will have Terry in them now. I'm also sad that I won't be in any either, since he was the photographer. He took th